We’re still in the month of love and RECEPTIVITY so as we turn inward to consider our feelings about ourselves, our sense of worthiness, our generosity, and our graciousness, let’s not forget that our inner selves are reflected in our environment. If there are changes we want to see in our relationships, specifically our intimate relationships, it’s important to set up our homes in a way that says to the world: “I’m ready! I’m open, I want it, and I welcome love.”
Here are the top five adjustments to make if you’re ready for love (or ready for bigger love, or better love, or hotter love…):
1. Treat your bed like a treasure.
Sleep on luxurious sheets. Have a pillow you adore. Decorate your bed like it’s in the finest hotel or inn. Make your bed every day! When you turn in at night, your bed should welcome you, and your partner, in the most comfortable, soothing way. There’s nothing like peeling back the covers and crawling in with your sweetie. When you wake up in the morning, make sure to set yourself up right for the next evening.
2. Balanced bedsides equals a balanced relationship.
Both sides of the bed should have a nightstand and a light. If one person has to put their glass of water on the floor and can’t comfortably read their book on their side of the bed, that’s not going to support equality in the relationship. Keep the bedside tables free from clutter and, if you can, keep any electronics out of this zone. The frequencies they send off can be disruptive to sleep, and the temptation to jump on Facebook one more time before bed detracts from the rest and romance that should be happening instead.
3. Establish a nighttime routine.
Flopping in to bed after a long, hard day may feel good in the moment, but honoring the work you do by establishing a routine upon retiring for the evening is such a gift to yourself, and to your relationship. Try to turn off the computer or the television at least 30 minutes before bedtime. Grant yourself some self-care time in the bathroom rinsing off the energy of the day. Slip in to your favorite sleeping clothes (or non-clothes if that’s how you roll). Spray your bed with a relaxing aromatherapy spray or rub some lavender lotion on your hands and elbows. Give yourself something to look forward to at the end of each day. This is going to leave you more present in those intimate closing moments of the day.
4. Accessorize in pairs.
When standing at the entrance to your bedroom, look to the far right corner. This is the Love & Relationship area of your room (you can do this in any room–not just the bedroom). You shouldn’t see clutter or dirty laundry or dust bunnies. This is a wonderful place for candles–two of them. If you have a plant there, add a second one. The energy of accessorizing in pairs in this area strengthens the energy of the intention for your relationship. Two shells, two books, two change bowls…
5. Think pink.
Pink is the most supportive color for Love & Relationships. If pink isn’t your thing, think white and red! If you consider the far right corner of your entire property, can you plant some pink flowers there? Two pink rose bushes (that would be awesome!)? When you stand at the front door to your home and notice what is in the space that is the back right corner of your house, does it say LOVE to you? Maybe a loveseat with two pink pillows. Pictures of couples who’s relationship you admire. What about a written intention on a piece of pink paper: “I am ready for and open to a relationship full of equality, passion, understanding, fun, and respect.” Or even “I love myself. I am enough and my life is full.”
Our intentions mean everything when we are mindfully designing our home and our lives. As you work on these five steps, remain receptive. Trust that you are right where you are supposed to be, and that you are setting the course for abundant love to come your way.