Okay, lovelies…can I talk to you about self-care, and specifically self-care in the midst of life-as-we-know-it? When we think of self-care, so many of us have visions pop up of massages, white robes, beach chairs, novels, and bubble baths. Those things are most definitely self-care.
What about the idea of retirement? I think for many people look forward to this as the time to do what they want to do and pursue their passions. The vision that pops up when they think of retirement is playing golf, creating art, sharing meals with loved ones, and traveling.
Life is too fucking short to wait for retirement. And life is too fucking short to save your self-care for whenever you can afford the time or money to go to the spa.
We must embrace the continuous act of self-care, and we must do it on multiple levels.
Taking care of ourselves is not something that we have to earn by working hard.
Is there a part of you that believes you don’t deserve a manicure? Or you haven’t “done enough” to allow yourself to read on the couch for an hour? Or you haven’t paid your dues so you’ll suffer through days at a shitty job with a jerk for a boss? If so, it’s time to start changing your beliefs.
When we take impeccable care of ourselves we are able to take impeccable care of others. When we nurture the childlike parts of ourselves we encourage our courageous selves to step forward. When we pamper the hurting parts of ourselves we open up space for the parts of us that want to celebrate and shout their gratitude. When we shine the light on the dark parts of our souls, we see the path to healing.
What do you need from yourself today to make you feel special, loved, and significant? Whatever that is, denying yourself of it is a cruel and unfair punishment. Maybe you can’t hop on a plain and head to Italy…but can you snuggle in and watch Under the Tuscan Sun? Maybe it’s not realistic for you to go for a nice, long run…but can you play a serious game of wrestle with your kids? Maybe you can’t go lie down to relieve your splitting headache…or maybe you can. And you absolutely should.
Take little pieces of your visions of that ideal life you seek and begin injecting them in to your every day life NOW. The key–like, the key to everything— is to feel the way you want to feel, and as often as possible.
I give you permission…now you give yourself permission. (Self-care Step #1)