This is a call to all insomniacs. Anyone who lays awake at night struggling to fall asleep. Anyone who wakes up with racing thoughts in the middle of the night and can’t fall back asleep. Especially those who toss and turn all night long, feeling tired when their alarm goes off in the morning, spending the rest of the day dragging.
How are you treating your bed?
Are you mad at it because you’re not rested? Is your bed not a sacred place for you? A retreat, a nest, a place of nurturing?
Consider that your bed is only going to be as good to you as you are to it. Think about your interactions with this piece of furniture. Most of us spend about 1/4-1/3 of our lives lying on our bed–this is a pretty tight relationship! What about when you’re not lying on it–how are you interacting with it? Is it piled with laundry? Do you make your bed every day? Are it’s sheets and comforter tattered and worn? What’s underneath your bed–do you even know?
“The quality of presence determines the quality of life.” (Jack Kornfield) Starting today, be mindful of the quality of your presence with you bed. Sound silly? Treat it like it’s one of your pets. Sound sillier? When you retire for the night, greet your bed affectionately. Tell it how happy you are to see it and how it’s just what you need after a long day. It has, after all, just been hanging out there in your bedroom waiting to be of service to you, like it is every night. If you’re not sleeping well maybe your bed is like the waiter who spits in your soup because you were rude to him. Hmmm. Silly or not, it’s worth a try.
What do you see when you come to bed each night? Something that slightly resembles this?
What if you kept your bedroom like a fine hotel room? Try it! Strip the sheets off your bed, spin your mattress around, spray it with some linen spray (I can blend you the perfect one for this ritual–click here to fill out the form to find out more), and make sure the frame is clean and dust-free. If you have a dust ruffle, take it off and throw it in the wash (when was the last time you did THAT?)
This is a place in your home to splurge on the finer things. Get some high thread count sheets in a soft flesh tone or a color that complements your own coloring. Make your bed with care–tuck in the corners neatly and adorn it with a few throw pillows that make you feel like you’re someplace special when you see them.
It’s time. It has to be done. Get down on your hands and knees and pull out everything that’s under your bed. Good, peaceful, restful energy needs to be able to flow freely under and around your bed. Find a place (or throw away!) everything that was long forgotten in the darkness of your under-bed and run a dust mop or vacuum as the finishing touch.
When you nestle in, be aware of the electronics that surround you in your bedroom. Even if they’re turned off, televisions, computers, and alarm clocks all emit EMFs (electromagnetic fields) that can disrupt your sleep. It’s best not to have them in your bedroom at all, but at least cover them up for now. Have a bedtime ritual that doesn’t involved electronics at all. Your brain is preparing for hours of rest and restoration–give it a break at least a half hour before you shut your eyes.
Offering gratitude for the blessings in your day is the best way to drift off. Slowly inhale thanks and exhale the stress of the day. When you awake in the morning, be still for a moment and set an intention for the new day ahead. And thank your bed for keeping you warm and secure throughout the night. Remember again that you’re treating this piece of furniture like it’s an old friend–fluff your pillow, pull the wrinkles out of your sheets, and make up your bed with loving intention.
Give it a try and please let me know how it goes for you! Sweet dreams!!