It is the last day of 2014. My Facebook feed is filled with advice for setting New Year’s resolutions, goals, intentions, cleaning up old stuff to make room for new. I am all about this…I am a goal setter, a Feng Shui practitioner, and energy worker who believes in the Law of Attraction, the power of visualization and creative expression. But all this commentary in my visual and mind space is overwhelming me right now. It’s all wonderful content and I’m grateful to have found so many inspiring sources to follow. But it’s making me feel inadequate at the moment.
I love to work with people in helping them unroot their deepest desires, visualize what their life will look like when their reality reflects their wildest dreams, then creating goals and plans to achieve that reality. This stuff lights me up. Doing it for myself stokes the fire that burns deep within me, and from that fire I can shine my light for others.
Organically I just don’t see New Year’s as a time to launch right in to goals or resolutions. Winter just officially started and this is naturally a deeply reflective time. To pick resolutions and hitch our wagon to them without introspection, release, gratitude, and vision is like throwing an empty pan in the oven, setting the timer, and hoping at the end you’ll have a cake. There are ingredients that are vital to this recipe of happiness, contentment, fulfillment, and success.
With the holidays and, for us Mamas out there, having the kids home from school for a couple of weeks, we’re not offered the freedom to do the work required to set sound goals on January 1. I definitely see this cusp as a “before and after,” a close of a season of indulgence on many levels. It’s natural to crave a cleansing of sorts…less sweets, less booze, and less inundation with people and shallow conversations (not that any of these things are bad, but moderation is kind of thrown to the wind in these last weeks of the year). In that regard, resolving to eat a healthy protein rather than pumpkin pie for breakfast is a good idea. Resolving to get the holiday decorations packed away and the house decluttered is fantastic. Resolving to start a spreadsheet with your credit card debt in clear view is a wonderful first step. I’m not against New Year’s resolutions…I’m just really in to inspired life creation.
Whether it’s starting a new routine, breaking a bad habit, or getting crystal clear on what you want your life to look and feel like day in and day out, any day is a good day to begin! If New Year’s is it for you, go for it! I love Spring Equinox because it aligns with the patterns of nature (which I whole-heartedly believe helps to ground and center us) as a time of growth and new birth. Or Labor Day–another time of the year when we’re closing out the loose and less disciplined season of summer and naturally start to look inward. This is one of my favorites, again–as a Mama, because the kids are headed back to school and I’m offered more time and energy to focus on myself. Or the celebration of your annual trip around the sun, your birthday. That is a time when people examine their lives and consider where they are on the number line, contemplating where they want to be next year, in 5 years, in their old age. I challenge you to let go to of the confines of these calendar-based rules (I challenge you to let go of the confines of MANY rules, but that’s a topic for another blog post) and recognize every day as your opportunity to take steps toward the life of your dreams.
This is what I will do this New Year’s Eve: I will look back at the past year in reverence. There were many people who left this realm that will be greatly missed–I will give thanks for the time I was granted with them. There were several important lessons learned through challenging experiences–I will give thanks for the learning I took from them. There were an abundance of fantastic memories made with people I love–I will give thanks for those gifts. I will stand, sipping champagne, in my strong and healthy body, wearing a cute outfit, surrounded by special people…and I will be wholly present as I own this life of mine, exactly as it is right now.
Cheers to a dreamy, ease-filled, magnificent 2015!