Not having a phone has been a blessing for me. I realized how attached I was to it. I listened to an interview that mocked the fact that we carry our phones from room to room. Like we’re THAT important. I laughed–but its so true and I’m so guilty of it! I get on my kids for their phone addictions, and I’m just as bad! And I counsel my clients to not check their phones at stop lights but I do it myself probably 75% of the time! I say it’s in the name of productivity but I really think the instant access and the addiction make me less productive.
It’s a phone–for calls–and an instant direct line to people. And a way to check out what thousands of others are doing at THAT moment. And access to information/research/trivia/news. A camera. A compass. A calculator. A work tool. A television. A music player. A calendar. A cookbook. A clock. I’m exhausted!
I’ve been entertaining the idea of categorizing things I need/want to do as either urgent or important. Time management is an area of my life I would like to master. Why? Because I am a multi-passionate girl! There are so many things I’m interested in and that are important to me. Wasting time just seems like…a waste! The idea is that urgent actives are more about other people and their goals, and important activities are more about my own goals. Urgent items are fighting fires. As a mom of 3, a wife, a business owner, a household-runner, and a woman (and all those glorious responsibilities and tendencies that go along with these roles) there are always fires to fight.
What’s important is aligned with what I want out of life. What I want to do, where I want to go, the mark I want to make. A lot of time this is big picture stuff. The urgent items are often detail stuff–the handful of things we can get done yet still feel like we haven’t accomplished anything.
Being glued to that phone automatically makes everything urgent. It makes us the ball in the pinball game of life. So much doing and not enough being. Racing around in service to other people’s needs or to get the quick fix doesn’t allow for contemplation and reflection. Dreaming and planning. Resting and restoring.
So as I sit here at the Apple Store waiting for them to fix my beloved phone, I ask myself…what am I going to do when I get it back? The realizations I’ve made about my unhealthy connection to being connected (by this device at least) are challenging me to make a shift. I’m sure I’ll be reminded of how the convenience of having all this information and power at my finger tips makes life so much easier. But I’m going to challenge that — because EASE is something I would love more of in my life, and I’m willing to bet if I wasn’t always referring to this machine I would find my life had more flow. Urgent things would be missed. But important things would be tended to. And the world will continue to go ’round if I wasn’t part of the pulse in every moment.
What do you think? Can you do it? Can you create a little nest for your phone on your desk, on your counter, or tucked away in your bag or a drawer? Can you resist the urge to pick it up and glance at it? Can you assign yourself certain times of the day that you use your device? Please share any tips or practices that work for you. And if you’re totally at peace with phone and consider it one of your best buds, please let us know about that too!